If the previous post does not inspire you, or tease the smile out onto your face, then maybe these 3 tips will. Of course, you have to do them in order for them to work, although just reading them made me smile! Again, these tips have been taken from one of my Goddess newsletters, and again, I just had to share them with you! Written by Michelle - one of the authors on Goddess
Tip 1:- Do A Handstand - once you're upside down, that smile magically appears :)
Tip 2:- Put your foot out and trip your cat - that put a huge smile on my face today but I am waiting for him to avenge which may not keep the smile for too long :) Warning - do not trip the dog, they get confused and fall. (That will also apply to humans I guess! Maybe not a great idea, and what do you do if you have not got a cat? but I have to admit, just reading that tip, did make me smile!)
Tip 3:- Buy something really expensive. If that doesn't put a smile on your face, I'm sure the 'look' you get from your spouse will :)
Now as I said, these 3 tips came from one of my Goddess newsletters. They are not necessarily my 3 tips - for one thing, I can no longer do handstands due to a physical disability! But I am sure that you get the point. Make yourself a list of 3 things to do, or to say, or to look at, which will help you smile and feel good on days which are just a little bit difficult and hard. Keep the list with you, make copies and put up in places where you can always see it. That way, your smile will never be far away. And that can only be a good thing!
Monday, 25 October 2010
Boost your self-esteem the NLP way!!
So it's been a while, for reasons I wont go into. But after deciding to re-read a lot of my old Goddess email newsletters for inspiration, I came across this one on NLP. This is a great practice for those who find their thoughts forever in darkness and/or surrounded by negativity. On an impulse, I decided I had to share this with you all. This is taken as is from the Goddess Newsletter about the goddess Amaterasu, happy new energy and to fix your self-esteem using NLP.
To get an idea of how NLP works, here is an article by Shlomo Vaknin, which describes an exercise to stop the flow of negative images, and at least for the present, will guide your mind back to the right tracks...
Step 1: Create an image of you as if you see yourself from the outside. Just for a few moments, try to imagine what would you look like if you saw yourself standing or sitting there, next to your computer, staring at the screen. Imagine the clothes you are wearing right now, the color of your hair and eyes, the facial expressions, the posture, the general look of you in a dissociated image.
Step 2: Adjust that image to present a positive look, even mildly positive. Ignore the little flaws that normally would catch your eyes in the mirror, and see the big picture, you as a whole person, sitting there on the chair, looking at these words, feeling some sort of serenity even just a little bit, it will grow stronger in a few moments.
Keep adjusting the image; play with sub modalities - make the image brighter, make it larger, play a quiet song you like in the background (only in your mind), make your image-self smile softly, enlarge any of your strong and positive characteristics.
The idea in step 2 is to maximise the positive points in you and minimise the negative ones. Keep working on that image, changing small details one at a time to make it a beautiful positive and accurate representation of who you really are.
Step 3: Exaggerate. We are all doing it in the negative side of our lives, making every little flaw a huge setback, a zit becomes a huge sign saying "look at me", the few cellulite bumps on our belly makes us believe everyone are starring at our fat-self. Of course it's not real, so why not doing it for our own benefit? Exaggerate the positive sides of you. You have blue eyes that everyone adore? Make them brighter and larger. You like your nose best? Focus on it. You have a great sense of humour, imagine how good you'd feel having other people smile from your words. Make it big, sensational and positive. There is no one way better, just play with it.
Step 4: Make that image more powerful by comparing it with the image you made in step 1. You can tell the differences because you did a lot to change the image. What is the difference in feelings? Where are those feelings located? Compare the images and approve to yourself that the second image, the more positively powerful one, is the one you'd like to keep with you today.
Note: This is not a one-time-fix exercise. You will want to practice and play with this short by powerful exercise as many times as you need. It is especially useful when you want to lighten up your day, maybe after an emotional event, a time when you feel down and want to cheer up. It is a simple but useful way to make you feel good, for a change.
I sincerely urge you to take these steps, and then build on them. NLP is a very powerful tool, and has proven itself over and over again. There are now a lot of places offering courses on becoming a qualified NLP facilitator and practitioner. Just think, this could very well be the first step in an exciting new career - helping others to be happy! What a wonderful way to live!!
To get an idea of how NLP works, here is an article by Shlomo Vaknin, which describes an exercise to stop the flow of negative images, and at least for the present, will guide your mind back to the right tracks...
Step 1: Create an image of you as if you see yourself from the outside. Just for a few moments, try to imagine what would you look like if you saw yourself standing or sitting there, next to your computer, staring at the screen. Imagine the clothes you are wearing right now, the color of your hair and eyes, the facial expressions, the posture, the general look of you in a dissociated image.
Step 2: Adjust that image to present a positive look, even mildly positive. Ignore the little flaws that normally would catch your eyes in the mirror, and see the big picture, you as a whole person, sitting there on the chair, looking at these words, feeling some sort of serenity even just a little bit, it will grow stronger in a few moments.
Keep adjusting the image; play with sub modalities - make the image brighter, make it larger, play a quiet song you like in the background (only in your mind), make your image-self smile softly, enlarge any of your strong and positive characteristics.
The idea in step 2 is to maximise the positive points in you and minimise the negative ones. Keep working on that image, changing small details one at a time to make it a beautiful positive and accurate representation of who you really are.
Step 3: Exaggerate. We are all doing it in the negative side of our lives, making every little flaw a huge setback, a zit becomes a huge sign saying "look at me", the few cellulite bumps on our belly makes us believe everyone are starring at our fat-self. Of course it's not real, so why not doing it for our own benefit? Exaggerate the positive sides of you. You have blue eyes that everyone adore? Make them brighter and larger. You like your nose best? Focus on it. You have a great sense of humour, imagine how good you'd feel having other people smile from your words. Make it big, sensational and positive. There is no one way better, just play with it.
Step 4: Make that image more powerful by comparing it with the image you made in step 1. You can tell the differences because you did a lot to change the image. What is the difference in feelings? Where are those feelings located? Compare the images and approve to yourself that the second image, the more positively powerful one, is the one you'd like to keep with you today.
Note: This is not a one-time-fix exercise. You will want to practice and play with this short by powerful exercise as many times as you need. It is especially useful when you want to lighten up your day, maybe after an emotional event, a time when you feel down and want to cheer up. It is a simple but useful way to make you feel good, for a change.
I sincerely urge you to take these steps, and then build on them. NLP is a very powerful tool, and has proven itself over and over again. There are now a lot of places offering courses on becoming a qualified NLP facilitator and practitioner. Just think, this could very well be the first step in an exciting new career - helping others to be happy! What a wonderful way to live!!
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